Why Men Have To Struggle All Their Life?

Good morning, friends. As men, we know well that life is full of struggles. It’s not just women who face their own set of challenges, but men, especially in today’s world, are under immense pressure. I see countless videos online where men express how they feel unappreciated — how they never hear that they are revered, loved, or respected. It’s a sentiment many men feel, especially from their wives and even society as a whole.

For the last 10, 15, maybe even 20 years, there’s been a shift where men are seen as expendable — expected to provide and protect but rarely given the respect they deserve. Yes, there are exceptions. There are amazing women and others who respect men, but overall, the tone has been one of indifference toward the struggles men face. So, I decided to turn to something a bit deeper — what does the Bible have to say about this?

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The Curse of Adam: Genesis 3:17–19

Let’s take a look at Genesis 3:17–19, a passage that’s often misinterpreted but can reveal profound insights when viewed through an esoteric lens. After Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge, God spoke to them and, specifically to Adam, said:

“Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, thou shalt not eat of it, cursed is the ground because of you. In pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life. Thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face, you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”

It’s easy to see this as a harsh curse. But we’re not looking at it literally here. There’s a deeper meaning at play, one that speaks to the spiritual journey of mankind. Many people, particularly in certain online communities, misuse this passage, especially when they claim that men are cursed because they listen to their wives. But that’s not the true meaning.

The Esoteric Meaning: A Struggle for Spiritual Growth

The Bible, especially in the New Testament, often speaks in parables. This passage, too, should be understood in a symbolic way, not a literal one. In an esoteric sense, the feminine often represents the subconscious mind — the impulses, the emotions, the lower drives. The masculine, on the other hand, is seen as reason, logic, and the higher aspirations. This duality of nature is important to understand in this context. God, often depicted as masculine, represents higher reasoning and divine order, but it doesn’t mean that the feminine (or women) are inherently bad. This is the balance of human nature, a duality that plays out in both our minds and in society.

In the case of Genesis 3:17–19, we can view the “curse” as a metaphor for the spiritual struggle that all humans, especially men, face in their journey through life. The ground — this material world — is cursed because we are now bound to it, and in it, we must labor. But this isn’t necessarily a punishment. It’s part of the spiritual path. The thorns and thistles represent the hardships we face, and the sweat of our brow symbolizes the effort required to grow spiritually. The “curse” here is not about physical labor per se, but about the spiritual labor we must endure to transcend our attachments to the material world and our ego.

The Battle Against Ego: Transcending the Flesh

As men, we’re often taught that we must work hard, provide, and protect. These are noble pursuits, but the struggle goes much deeper. The real battle is not about the amount of physical or mental work we put in — it’s about overcoming the ego, the flesh, and the lower drives. The spiritual struggle of man is about walking with grace, humility, and sacrifice, and learning to let go of our attachment to material things and lower impulses.

In a sense, this passage speaks to the soul’s journey. We were once in a state of oneness with God in the Garden of Eden, before we ate from the tree and gained the knowledge of good and evil. That moment of eating from the tree marked the beginning of our struggle with duality — the separation between good and evil, light and darkness, spirit and flesh. As men, we experience this struggle acutely, especially with the pressures and temptations of the modern world.

The Struggle with Temptation and Lust

The sex drive, for example, is one of the strongest pulls on a man throughout his life. In today’s world, with its rampant sexualization, it becomes even more challenging to maintain control. But this struggle is part of the human condition — especially for men. The goal isn’t to deny or suppress these drives entirely but to transcend them, to walk with Jesus and embody love, grace, and humility in every aspect of life.

This is where the real spiritual battle lies: learning to walk in righteousness despite the temptation of the flesh, the ego, and sin. It’s about walking the path with Jesus, even when the world around us seems full of struggle, suffering, and hardship. Just like Jesus did on the cross, we are called to find joy even in suffering, knowing that it has a higher purpose and meaning.

Karma, Faith, and the Purpose of Struggle

Some might liken this to the concept of karma — the idea that our struggles are a way of repaying past wrongs or purifying ourselves. But from a Christian perspective, it’s about walking through life with faith, righteousness, and the love of God, despite the trials we face. This is why we struggle. It’s not a punishment but an opportunity to grow closer to God, to prove our faith, and to create goodness in the world.

In fact, we often see the most devout, good-hearted people endure the greatest suffering. Think of the story of Job in the Bible — a righteous man who lost everything as a test of faith. His journey symbolizes how, despite immense suffering, we must continue to walk with God. Through the trials, we are shaped, refined, and made stronger in our faith. And this struggle is a lifelong process.

Men’s Struggles in a Modern Society

Men face unique challenges in this modern world, particularly with the pressures placed on them as providers and protectors. But the struggle, ultimately, is spiritual. It’s a test of faith. And the more we endure, the closer we come to God’s purpose for us. We live in a society that often overlooks this, but that doesn’t change the truth. And perhaps, with time, the tides will turn, and society will begin to appreciate the struggles men face.

But for now, we must continue on our path, finding strength in our faith, and walking with God, even in the face of hardship. This is the struggle of man — one that has been going on since the beginning of time. And it’s through this struggle that we find our purpose, our faith, and ultimately, our oneness with the divine.